In this day and age being single is hard enough, but being single during a worldwide pandemic lockdown–pure hell. Fortunately, we live in a time where there seems to be endless amounts of dating websites and apps to help us. There is Bumble where if you aren’t on it 24 hours of the day, failure is all you will be meeting. Then there is Tinder. All I have to say about that is, it basically birthed hookup culture, so if you are looking for anything more than “hey wanna hu”, Tinder is not the one for you. Personally, my favorite is Hinge. Beyond these three, you’re either paying to find your husband or downloading apps called Plenty of Fish on your phone. Not ideal.
Hinge is a more relationship-oriented app. Their motto is “designed to be deleted.” Don’t get me wrong, you will ALWAYS come across the few that are simply looking for sex, so don’t get discouraged when you find them. Unlike other dating apps though, it asks you more than your basic information like height, ethnicity, work, and education. It also asks about your religion, if you want kids, your views on politics, and whether you partake in smoking or drinking alcohol. Although it asks for all of this information, it is completely up to you whether you want it to be showcased on your profile. It then requires you to add up to six photos of yourself. Finally, it asks you to upload a personal response to at least three prompts from the list the app supplies. This is where you can really stand out from the rest and where you can weed out the ones that may be good looking but not compatible with your style. From there, you’re ready to start swiping. So, this is what dating has become. Swiping to hopefully find your knight in shining armor, unless you are the one lucky person getting picked up in the grocery store or local Walmart (hopefully doing so 6ft away with protective gear).
In a world without a global pandemic, you discuss meeting up and you either do or you don’t. In the 2020 COVID-19 lockdown, you have to genuinely talk to the person via text, facetime, zoom, or skype. My first facetime date consisted of me sitting with a single lamp on, no makeup, messy bun that had been in for the past 3 days, and a stained pajama shirt from 2012 (that he obviously couldn’t see). I wouldn’t say that it went poorly, however my mom barging in halfway through–mortifying. Thankfully it was completely ignored after he heard me tell my mom I was talking to my friend Gina (as if I was going to tell her I was talking to a guy I just “met” an hour ago) and our little date went on. Three weeks later and the facetime dates continue. I must add that he has definitely seen me at my worst, if not worse than that, and still continues to talk to me. Yay!
So maybe there are some benefits to this entirely virtual dating scene. You don’t necessarily need to cake your face with makeup, so they don’t see the red mountain that has formed on your chin. All you need to do is change the lighting and angle. You definitely could dress to impress, but if you just slightly tilt your computer screen up a bit, all they need to see is everything north of your collarbones. Then you can wear your favorite pajamas. Pajama short sets are all the rage that you can get almost anywhere. My favorites are these silk beauties by Olivia Von Halle.
You can also swap those out for a more affordable pair from In Bloom by Jonquil that you can find at Nordstrom. Silk pajamas are super comfortable and also make you look like a chic queen.
Another way you can spice up your look without doing anything major is by wearing cute hair accessories like clips, hair bands or funky hair ties. I don’t think scrunchies can ever go out of style and they are always my go to. To go with your silk pajamas you could do a cute high-ponytail with one of these fabulous silk scrunchies from Sephora.
With no pressure to look your absolute best, the chances of you finding a partner who could give less about your appearance and someone whom you genuinely have a connection with are much higher. Plus, you can be completely and utterly yourself from the start. I mean let’s face it, if the person ends up being a total waste, ask yourself, when will you actually ever see them in public? In the near future? The Coronavirus has already put businesses out until late May and we already had one set back from April. What says there isn’t going to be another? Also, with everyone moving to their parents’ houses to quarantine, the guy could move back to his own place 500 miles away from you when everything opens back up again. Now that’s ideal.